Confidence-11 Easy Tips on How to Have it!

As the Global situation progresses, some of us can see a light at the end of the tunnel, but for others, a real clarity of vision for the future is still difficult. But, there are ways to feel more certain, happy and confident as to what the future might hold, as well as feeling confidence within.

Despite the fact that countries are still coming out and going back into lockdowns, we have seen that little by little, life is getting back to a greater degree of normality. (Whatever normal is!). Yet, we don’t know what will happen going forwards. We all have our individual needs, goals, hopes. So how can you feel truly comfortable and happy about what the future can hold for you?

There are several steps you can take to feel genuine happiness and confidence. If you are feeling a lack, or dissatisfaction with your life, then there is no better time than now to begin working on this. Training yourself right now to feel as confident as possible can have astounding results going forwards! Here we present you with some useful tips. These are things you can easily practice to boost your confidence! Each of these tips may seem small, but can help you to get exactly what you want as we move forwards.

Self-care is of the essence on the path of feeling confident, but also essential on the path to success. To stay as healthy as you can, to look after yourself physically and to do what you can to keep your morale. Feeling comfortable with yourself, how you act and how you look is important. Looking back at the past can also be very helpful in this respect. When you were at your happiest, what did you do for yourself that you are not doing now? If there is something easy to implement such as doing your nails or hair, eating better food, exercising, organising a portion of your time better or taking some relaxation time, then start putting it back into your schedule on a regular basis. And don’t say you can’t, because you can!

Smile when you can, as getting into the habit of doing this will honestly make you feel better. You can even force yourself to smile if you have to! Smiling actually has a stunning effect on our brains and bodies. Yes, every time you smile, your brain automatically releases various “happy” hormones, including seratonin and dopamine,  into your bloodstream. This has a calming and balancing effect on the body, helping to alleviate stress and will genuinely make you feel uplifted. So, get into the habit of smiling, even to yourself. If faced with others, be that an animal or even a friend you see on the internet, they will also feel more relaxed and open around you. Happiness creates happiness!

Sitting straight, standing straight with your shoulders back, carrying your head high, having as much  eye contact with others as is possible. Being conscious of these factors and controlling them when you can, will make you feel better and more confident.  If you don’t believe us, why not watch any confident person on your favourite TV show or film? You will see it is true. If you put this into practice, you will also notice how people’s attitude to you will change and that how you feel will change in a very positive way too.

5. SPEAK SLOWLY AND MEANINGFULLY

Since lockdown, communication has become a more precious thing. So. savouring all moments of communication, so your wording is precise and you speak in a slower, meaningful manner, will not only help you to feel more confident, but will give much more meaning to what you say to others as well. Confident people speak slowly, people listen to them. And, confident people are more likely to get what they want!

If you are experiencing negative trains of thought, learn to put a stop to them, one by one. This can of course happen to anyone following difficult life events, or during cycles where we feel we have lost our personal power.  Once that happens, it’s easy for negative thoughts to set in!  But remember, if you think you can’t, then you probably can’t! Try and transform negative thoughts into positive thoughts when you can. If you have negative thoughts coming to you, then consciously saying ” No, I don’t want this” to yourself and do something to try to put a stop to them. Simply being proactive and doing something as simple as making a drink or tidying something up, can put paid to a negative thought. Write down a negative thought and transform it into a positive one on paper. Stick this to your mirror, fridge door, or desk as is appropriate and start believing that you can. Because, you know what? YOU CAN!

This can feel like a hard one. But remember, many things in your life really are your choice. You have the right to say no. You have the right to say  “I can’t do this now, I am sorry.” ” You have the right to say how someone is making you feel. In many cases, we feel things are out of our control, but they really aren’t as much as we sometimes think. Be conscious of people who are negative and who make you feel drained. Start to control this as and when you feel you can, so YOU feel comfortable. Do not let people take over your life as they fancy it. You don’t need a shouting match any time. You can also say how you feel and people will usually relate to this. Try and put things in a positive way. “I really sympathise and I want to hear your problem. However, right now I can’t give you the sufficient time you deserve. Can we talk about this at 6pm?”  Before your appointed time, give yourself a few mental minutes to prepare, be confident and use steps 1 to 6 above in your preparation! As you take control of negative people, you will yourself feel stronger too.

One reason people fail and get disillusioned is that they set their goals too high initially, then they fail. So, why not practice on a few small goals first? To begin with, just pick one goal to achieve.This might be walking for 10 minutes a day for a week, writing a letter or an email to an old friend which is long overdue, clearing out or washing down an item of furniture you have wanted to do for ages. Set your goal, fulfil it and then feel rewarded when it’s done! Then pick another!

You are whoever you want to be. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! So, why not do something ” out of the box”  to show yourself that you can?  We guarantee if you try some of our steps above, you will feel more confident about yourself in a matter of days. When you feel ready, plan yourself something different and step out of your usual box. It might be dressing differently for a day, trying your hand at something you would never usually do, learning a new skill… you name it, it’s entirely up to you! Don’t ruin the surprise by telling anyone before you do it, just do it for yourself! And don’t feel bad about wallowing in self-satisfaction when it’s accomplished. You did it!

You must never feel bad about doing what is best for you. But that can be hard when it comes to relationships, as there are other people to consider. However it is always important to put yourself first. If you are a lovely, caring person that is fine, but that probably means other people rely on you to be there for them. Which in turn means it has to be your priority to look after yourself first! Keeping your confidence in good balance will also affect your relationships in a positive way. You will be able to ask for more of what you want. To spend more time doing things you truly enjoy. And, to explain yourself better. This in turn will attract the love you truly want in your life. Trust us, we know it’s true!

As you progress on your path of confidence, you will be able to Go for Gold. This means you will be able to set a bigger ” Golden Goal” for something which is of key importance in your life, or maybe for a special someone. This can be whenever you know you are ready. If you are not ready yet and not feeling confident, get into the swing of feeling and being truly confident with some of the steps suggested above. Stay on your journey, be persistent to do what is right for you and listen to your inner voice. Within a short time, you will be able to Go for Gold, so you will be able to get your heart’s desire.

And what might that be?

A raise or a new career?
The love you want on your terms, shared and reciprocated in every way?
Happiness and Inner Peace?
You decide!

And of course, if you need guidance, insight, a quick coaching session, or simply reassurance that you are on the right path. you know that our 200 tried and tested advisors are here for you at any time.

The first step to getting what you want is to have the courage to get rid of what you don’t
—Zig Ziglar