LOVE
Do you know what you really need?
Do you know how to GET IT?
We all want love, but few of us know how to get exactly what we need! Here’s how to do it! And to get the LOVE YOU WANT!
HOW TO GET THE LOVE YOU WANT
Love. Can’t live with it, can’t live without it! In the days before Covid, there were actually many happy single people. Some people are still happy, but that is their nature, whether in a relationship or not. Yet Covid has certainly made relationships more complicated for both singles and those in relationships alike. It has actually managed to change many dynamics. But we won’t discuss that here, as we would be talking about things you already know!
What we do want to discuss today is love. Real, True Love. Love that makes you happy. A love that you can trust. Love that means you can enjoy your life, however you want it to be and still get everything you want done. Love that means you can grow and transform together. A love that where your partner or lover is completely synchronised with you. In short, how to get the love you really want.
Think that isn’t possible? You old sceptic you! Here we tell you how to get the love you want in several easy steps.
RULES ARE THERE AINT NO RULES
Many couples are just couples who exist together. A few times in our lives we have all come across extraordinary couples. But those couples don’t always have the same style. And that is because they make their own style. You might have even seen what you consider to be a perfect match among these couples. Yes, everyone has their perfect match. But many people give up before they get to that point and take what’s second best for them. Then they are surprised when their relationship doesn’t last. Or worse, they are unhappy or wanting in their .
A relationship can be whatever you decide it to be. For singles, you could see a partner just a couple of times a week, a month, even a year if it suited you. And for those in a relationship, the rules are the same and yet, if you live together, you can change the rules as you wish too.
THE BUT WORD
NLP is a psychological coaching practice that can help people have a change of mindset and transform their lives, often in minutes! “ But” is a word that is often a shows a negative. When someone uses it, an NLP practitioner can tell if they are stuck in a situation, procrastinating on doing something to help themselves, even making an excuse for somebody else. Such phrases might be “ I want to meet the right person, but I never do.” Or, “ I love X but I wish they could get their act together.”
So actually, its worth you examining your “buts” in relationships. What are you dissatisfied with in your current situation? What needs to change? It is then that you can start seeing the options that are truly available to you.
WHAT YOU WANT IN LOVE
If we get down to the nitty gritty, what do you really want in your love life? If you are serious about getting what you want, it can be worth while taking a few notes just for 5-10 minutes or so, in a private notebook. Do not let any conditioning affect your decisions. We are asking you here WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. It doesn’t matter what other people think, or how difficult you think it may be to achieve this at the moment. So for now, don’t take any of that into consideration, (it won’t actually be that difficult, if you follow our steps!).
Firstly take a few moments and think about who you really are. Who are you inside? Who are you now? Then have a think and list what you want, to have an ideal love life and an ideal partner. If you take out of the equation your current circumstances of love, you could be surprised at what is fundamentally important to you. And this assessment is essential, if you are going to get the love you really want to have.
LOOK WITHIN TO SEE WITHOUT
Often our relationships eat part of us away. But that is not how relationships are supposed to be, is it? It is a known fact that many people give up part of what they love in the rest of their life to be with a partner. Likewise, looking at successful couples, this is often a thing that they haven’t done. Some couples are able to remain as two individual people who are complimentary ,yet still do their own thing.
This balance is one of the hardest things to achieve. Issues like temptation, trust, following your own dreams and then having nothing in common with a partner, are very common. But love is not just a one road show. There are many possible paths to take and many possible solutions. None are necessarily right or wrong. That is just a matter of personal opinion! ( Right or Wrong may that be!)
SPOTTING THE STOP SIGNS IN LOVE
So, we all have our own point of views on everything. Our own sets of values. People are able to learn new skills. A messy person can still be messy, but learn to tidy up regularly enough to please a tidy person. A person who has no interest in sport can suddenly discover they like roller skating, walking or that using a Nintendo Wii dance programme can be real fun and develop a new passion.
However, what you can’t often change is fundamental aspects of a person’s values or personality. Someone who is rude and snappy is always likely to be rude and snappy. It’s just their nature. Someone who is fundamentally jealous is going to have to have serious amounts of coaching to lose their jealous streak, or just accept that they are like that. Often in relationships these things can be spotted early on. But early on, we are often having such a great time, its often easy to ignore the warning signs that will trouble us later on.
INEQUALITY IN LOVE
We often think of soul mates as being true love. In relationships we have different needs, but the basis is to be able to love someone, be equally loved in return, but also to be able to live with that person happily. Going back to our first point above “ living with” does not necessarily need to be in the same home. However it is rare that a home actually causes serious issues in relationships, which eventually terminate in break up. What causes the issues is that the two people are not well matched and often the signs were there from the early beginnings. This is not a soul mate relationship.
SIGNS IT WONT WORK OUT
- One or more important people among your good friends or close family don’t like your partner
- You cannot stand someone important among their friends or family
- Vice versa, they can’t stand certain important people among your good friends or family
- You feel like you are being ignored or walked on
- They treated their previous partners badly. Its also worth looking at how they treat other people too.
- You cannot communicate with them in the way you want to and often remain frustrated, stressed, sad, even depressed
- The relationship was based on passion in the early stages, with everything always leading to sex or passionate moments.
- You or the other person were not 100% truthful or tried to hide something from the off
- They criticise you or consistently nag you. At times, they are even prepared to do this in front of other people
- You don’t trust them and they don’t show you all the signs they are trustworthy
In fact, FOR MOST UNSUCCESSFUL COUPLES, the warning signs were honestly present before the couple made any kind of commitment at all. If you have had unsuccessful relationships take a good look at this aspect. Can you spot the fact that there were warning signs much earlier than you perhaps originally thought? Did you go through the relationship hoping that things could get better, or ignoring the signs?
HAVE NO FEAR
The next step to take is to take stock of who you really are. Living the real you in every moment is the ONLY step to achieve happiness and inner peace. And it is only like this that you can find a lasting and true love that sits well with this. But, for this to happen you must have no fear in love. You must not be prepared to put up with second best. You must always do what is right for you.
In really good love matches, this is always the case. We can’t say that even in what we see as “perfect” couples there are no arguments, no difficult moments or decisions to overcome, no sorrowful moments. Of course there are, that is life coming at you, whether you are single or in a relationship!
But a working and happy relationship will overcome all of these trials of life. Your partner will take you by the hand to overcome obstacles. Where you disagree you will find a path to agree to differ and accept and respect the other person’s decision, or negotiate to find a mutually satisfactory agreement.
THE IMPORTANCE OF TRUST
Trust in relationships is essential. But it really helps if you have shared values. The risk of a breach of trust is then severely diminished. The other major factor is that other people trust your partner and they have shown in the past and in the current moment that they can be trusted.
Many of us have trust issues leftover from past relationships. If this is your case, then recognise this needs healing. An understanding partner will help you with this and be ready to show they are trustworthy.
GO FOR THE RIGHT LOVE FOR YOU
Once you follow our points above, consider carefully what you want there is (of course) one final, yet very fundamental point. And that is do everything you can to love yourself too. If you are unhappy with yourself, a relationship at this stage is unlikely to sort this out, or last the longer term. Take small steps to become who you truly are, to be happy in yourself and at peace with those who matter to you. Do what you can to feel happy with your mind, body and spirit. Say how you feel. Dare to ask for what you want. Challenge and question when something doesn’t feel right.
If you are true to yourself, you will find the perfect love for you. For such is the way our magical universe works. And it can happen quickly. But right now, everything is in your hands……
Let our love and relationship advisors guide you today. From psychic advisors who tell you what you need to know to change the direction of your love life, to life coaches to help you with blockages on your path, we have the right advisor for you. 15 minutes worth of guidance can often set you off on a new path, to get the love you want today!
